8 Steps to take the Stress out of Homework
Homework, though a necessary evil, it is seen as a child’s worst enemy. Even more often, parents find them in a worse situation of making sure their child lives through it in a healthy manner. Unless a student is highly committed and focused, it can become an uncomfortable part of the daily routine. As responsible parents, the important first step would be to recognize the problem and get to the root of it. You should be able to judge if your child sees his school homework as a daily battle or a mental pressure. How often do you need to get involved in actively helping him or her? Does your encouraging conversations and motivating discussions help the child? Is there a need to talk to their teachers if you haven’t done it already? Do you see yourself as punishing or taking harsh steps to control your child and keeping him on track? Some of these steps can actually backfire and work against you as the child can become resistant to your means and even develop a solitary behavioral pattern. It is therefore important to deal with your child patiently and effectively, to make sure he benefits from your efforts and in turn becomes a responsible student.
Here are a few quick tips to tackle the so-called homework struggle:
1. Focus on the method and not the end result. In other words, you should be discussing or helping your child in understanding and guiding how he approaches a problem, manages his time or makes use of his best resources. Instead of making sure the homework is finished on time, you should encourage the child to take responsibility and judge his week points and help him in finding a solution.
2. Try to understand what goes on in your child’s mind. His worries, concerns and fears. Is he afraid of being mocked upon by his classmates or is he just struggling with a subject. Does he want to be the first to get the work done or is does he prioritize being the best. It is important to get involved in a friendly manner and encourage your child to discuss his issues. Only then will you be able to help him in the true sense.
3. Give them a fair chance and be open to discussions. You should have the time and patience to hear out your child and not convey any strong feeling or disagreement. This would only discourage them and they might lose interest further.
4. Comfort your children and ratify the fact that home works are never easy and you understand them and their concerns. Your acknowledgment or agreement would only develop a feeling of appreciation, which would be comforting and motivating for them. in turn, to help them, you should discuss the importance of studies and how home works and assignments help them in solving bigger problems in practical life. This will fill a feeling positivity and also put less pressure on them to perform.
5. Be available as a guide. While it is wrong to spoon feed your child with answers, one should also not forget the importance of assistance. Your availability as a guide or a tutor would be a moral boost for your child. You should encourage them by praising them for their efforts, and guide them in the right direction that motivates them further to come up with a solution with minimal help from your end.
6. Time your intervention well. While you are making an effort to help your child understand the true meaning and ways of dealing with the stress of homework, it should seem like just another day for them. Children should not be under any pressure or time bound, while you are trying to convey your thoughts. Take your time, do it slowly and try not to rush. Weekends or holidays might be a good time to start when there is no pressure and you can work with them as a friendly companion that helps them reduce stress and focus more positively.
7. Keeping it fun: substitute problems with real world interesting problems, or try to explain and understand the various issues by relating it to fun things. For instance: you can always give an example of a basketball to explain laws of physics.
8. Always remember your ultimate goal is to help your child gain focus and get rid of any stresses that comes along with the homework or their student life. Just getting the work done on a daily basis will not take you far. There could be multiple ways you would need to try, before you start seeing encouraging results and time and patience would be the key.
A child and his homework go hand in hand, and the pressures that come along, are easily avoidable. A positive approach, and better grades, all come together as a complete package.